Questions for couples

40 questions: which of you two?

1. 1. Who of you wakes up faster in the morning and is ready to go right away?

   Night owl or early bird: does your self-image match reality?

2. 2. Who of you is the more romantic one in everyday life?

   List your little gestures from the last while for each other.

3. 3. Who of you clearly takes on more of the household chores?

   Quickly list who actually does which routines.

4. 4. Who of you spends more time on the phone or in front of the TV in the evening?

   Honest question: does it bother you or is it just part of the deal?

5. 5. Who of you more reliably remembers anniversaries and special occasions?

   Which occasion was forgotten last - and who noticed?

6. 6. Who of you wanders through shops for hours on vacation without buying anything?

   Shopping marathon or quick walkthrough - which camp are you in?

7. 7. Who of you packs way too many clothes for trips together?

   Do you still remember the last overstuffed bag?

8. 8. Who of you secretly watches episodes of a shared series ahead?

   Have you ever been caught spoiling?

9. 9. Who of you gets in a bad mood faster during a trip to Ikea?

   Do you have a secret Ikea emergency plan?

10. 10. Who of you usually decides in the end what gets cooked for dinner?

    Is there a case where that backfired badly?

11. 11. Who of you finishes the other's water at the restaurant because their own glass is already empty?

    Who gets thirsty faster?

12. 12. Who of you laughs loudest at their own worst jokes?

    Which joke was really embarrassing last time?

13. 13. Who of you more often leaves a coffee cup sitting on the table unfinished?

    Is there a favorite forgetful spot?

14. 14. Who of you more often starts belting out songs in the car?

    What is your absolute car karaoke classic?

15. 15. Who of you talks in their sleep or clearly snores louder?

    Have you ever been woken up by it?

16. 16. Who of you hoards old receipts, tickets, or travel souvenirs?

    Which souvenir once had to be secretly thrown away?

17. 17. Who of you has the bigger weakness for sweets?

    What was the last secret snack?

18. 18. Who of you turns off the light earlier in the evening?

    Who is clearly the night owl, who is the early bird?

19. 19. Who of you more often sends memes or reels into your shared chat?

    Whose picks land better with the other?

20. 20. Who of you secretly hides chocolate from the other?

    Where is your best hiding spot?

21. 21. Who of you has a secret favorite spot on the sofa?

    What happens when the other one sits in it?

22. 22. Who of you is clearly the person who knows the Wi-Fi password?

    Who keeps asking the other for passwords?

23. 23. Who of you kisses first when saying goodbye in the morning?

    Do you have a fixed goodbye ritual?

24. 24. Who of you more often initiates a cozy evening on the couch?

    Who falls asleep faster doing it?

25. 25. Who of you keeps a better overview of your shared finances?

    Who would take care of the tax return?

26. 26. Who of you spends money more impulsively, without thinking long?

    What was the last impulse buy?

27. 27. Who of you calls their own family more often?

    Who has the closer relationship with the in-laws?

28. 28. Who of you tells family stories in more detail and more dramatically?

    Which story gets longer every time?

29. 29. Who of you knew earlier that the two of you would become a couple?

    When was the moment of certainty for you?

30. 30. Who of you more often daydreams out loud about your shared future?

    Which plan for the future is at the very top?

31. 31. Who of you plans the next vacation together in more detail?

    Who puts together the better travel playlist?

32. 32. Who of you spends more time on series than they admit?

    Which series do you secretly watch ahead?

33. 33. Who of you is clearly in a worse mood in the morning?

    What helps against the morning mood?

34. 34. Who of you puts off unpleasant phone calls the longest?

    Which phone call do you both like to put off?

35. 35. Who of you needs more rest on vacation, while the other wants more action?

    How do you find a compromise there?

36. 36. Who of you decides in the end which movie gets watched?

    Whose taste in movies wins more often?

37. 37. Who of you apologizes in a more roundabout way after an argument?

    What does your typical making-up look like?

38. 38. Who of you notices faster when the other is in a bad mood?

    How do you recognize the other's mood?

39. 39. Who of you spends longer in the bathroom?

    What takes the longest in there?

40. 40. Who of you collects things that nobody really needs?

    Which collection causes discussions?

24 questions where you guess the other person

Each of you answers about yourself first — then you guess what the other one picked.

1. 1. What are you most afraid of?

   • Heights
   • Tight spaces
   • Deep water
   • The dark

2. 2. How do you keep track of your spending?

   • Budget app or notebook
   • Checking the account
   • A rough sense of it
   • Not at all

3. 3. How much time do you spend on your phone daily?

   • Under an hour
   • One to two hours
   • Three to four hours
   • More than four hours

4. 4. What do you do if a film gets boring after 20 minutes?

   • Watch it to the end
   • Reach for the phone
   • Stop and switch films
   • Fall asleep

5. 5. When do you pack your suitcase before a trip?

   • A week ahead
   • Two days ahead
   • The night before
   • Right before leaving

6. 6. What do you reach for on the couch at night?

   • Chocolate
   • Crisps
   • Fruit
   • Gummy sweets

7. 7. How often do you go to concerts?

   • Several times a year
   • Once a year
   • Very rarely
   • Never so far

8. 8. What does your desk look like on a normal day?

   • Spotless
   • Neat with a system
   • Creative chaos
   • Papers everywhere

9. 9. How do you feel about surprise visitors dropping by?

   • Pure delight
   • Happy but flustered
   • A bit overwhelmed
   • Rather not answer

10. 10. What talent would you love to be born with?

    • Singing
    • Drawing
    • Playing an instrument
    • Speaking every language

11. 11. How do you react to a truly terrible joke?

    • Laugh anyway
    • Rolling eyes
    • Stony silence
    • Top it with a worse one

12. 12. Which childhood dream have you never given up on?

    • Write a book
    • Perform on stage
    • Have a pet
    • Build a house

13. 13. How do you make important decisions?

    • Trust the gut
    • Weigh it up for ages
    • Ask others
    • Make a list

14. 14. What annoys you most about technology?

    • Updates at bad times
    • Passwords
    • Tangled cables
    • Ads everywhere

15. 15. How do you react when someone spoils a series ending?

    • Get really angry
    • Grumble a bit
    • Barely bothered
    • Ask for more anyway

16. 16. How many pillows do you sleep best with?

    • One pillow
    • Two pillows
    • Three or more
    • No pillow at all

17. 17. What do you listen to most when out and about?

    • Music
    • Podcasts
    • Audiobooks
    • Nothing, just quiet

18. 18. How loud do you turn up music at home?

    • Really loud
    • Comfortably medium
    • Quiet, in the background
    • Hardly ever on

19. 19. How do you deal with dirty dishes?

    • Wash them right away
    • All at once in the evening
    • Not until next day
    • Soak and wait

20. 20. What sound do you make without even noticing?

    • Humming
    • Whistling
    • Sighing
    • Drumming fingers

21. 21. How do you decide what gets thrown away?

    • Sort it out right away
    • Keep it for now
    • Down to the basement
    • Give it away instead

22. 22. What comforts you most reliably?

    • A hug
    • Something sweet
    • A long conversation
    • Rest and sleep

23. 23. What was your first ever phone?

    • A basic keypad phone
    • A flip phone
    • Straight to smartphone
    • A hand-me-down

24. 24. What do you want most for your birthday?

    • An experience
    • Something handmade
    • Something from the wishlist
    • Time together